Give & Take

How to define the give and take in a relationship?

Guy’s version of give:
He cater her daily needs as of food, shelter, entertainment, transport and so on
All he can do is just dealing with money and he really thought money could satisfy a girl’s need and he thinks that girl should really satisfy with what has been provided by not complaining any.

Guy’s version of take:
He is looking for understanding, trust and respect from his girl.
He needs all that from the girl so that only he could really concentrate on his career!

Gal’s version of give:
She will do all the sweet stuffs like greet and hug him while meeting up with him, kiss morning before she goes to work and kiss goodnight before she off to bed, cook whenever she can (but she never expects him to abandon her cooking!), hold his hand whenever in the car or at the public, make lovely card and some special gift for their important days. She remembers all the important days of them and care to spend time together.

Gal’s version of take:
She needs lot of attention, companion, loving care and tender love. Money alone couldn’t buy heart that really loves! She needs a smile and a comfort hug while she is down from unhappy stuffs. She needs a pair of ears that listen and a general heart to accept her as she is.


Unfortunately the give and take didn’t always co-exist as expected. It’s so difficult to reach a compromise for the two persons that don’t really understand each other’s need! To live a life together can never be easy neither shall I say to find a soulmate that really click?

p.s. However nothing is easy, if you really love a person, you get to change yourself first before you demand others to change for you. It is equally applied to this quote: “you shall love yourself before someone else could love you too!” and this, you gained respect from others by you respecting them in the first place. We are all living in a community that we couldn’t survive alone, so learn to coat yourself with the culture of give and take, to make the living in among human, much more easy and simple!

Love the one of your chosen one!